Sensitive Latinas Have Better Sex Than Anyone In The World, Except When They Don’t

A new study conducted in London using twins shows that women with higher emotional intelligence have better sex. Emotional intelligence, or EI, is the ability to manage one’s own emotions and to empathize or be in tune with those of others. So there goes the theory that women who are self-absorbed sociopaths with manic mood swings are better at sex. 

But what, exactly, does the study mean by the term “better at sex?” Having sex that results in an orgasm, natch:

The findings suggest that having low EI puts woman at risk of female orgasmic disorder, one of the most common sexual problems suffered by women. Up to 30 per cent of women find it difficult or impossible to climax.

We wonder what impact surveys like this will have on stereotypes about Latinas and sex. We already know that Latinas are both fiery sex machines and submissive housewives who fix their boyfriends’ plates every night, adn that they are exotic and different and, most importantly, available. But how do Latinas’ (perceived) emotional intelligence play into this? 

We’re well aware at this point that many of us are viewed as angry, and we’ll venture to guess that it’s because people equate people’s - especially people they think to be unintelligent or base - environment as being indicative of their inner landscape and their emotional state. So (we’re guessing) because so many Latinas are thought to come from hot places, it is assumed that their tempers must also be hot, fiery, boiling, steaming, etc. 

This sense of heightened emotion is often described as “passionate,” which is an attribute thought of as generally positive for both sex and telenovelas. Plus, we’ve found people to believe that people who are slightly unhinged or unbalanced have wilder, better, hotter sex. “Fat girls have better sex because they love the validation” is one common stereotype. So are “crazy exes have hot sex” or “girls with daddy issues give good head.” There is something lacking in these women in an emotional sense, the thought goes, so they seek to fill that with sex and, because they’re damaged or lonely or have low self-esteem, they are more selfless and giving during sex, always putting the other person before themselves to make sure that person is happy and will like them. 

We’re sure its very alluring to have sex with someone who may or may not begin to sob uncontrollably mid-fellatio or who is likely to bite down on your cock in a fit of rage, but what we don’t understand is how the way the results of this survey is reported seems to ignore the fact that there are usually two people (at least) involved in sex and that emotional intelligence doesn’t do anyone much good if one person is doing all the giving and one is doing all the taking or if there’s a lack of trust between two people. 

We guess what we’re asking is… Isn’t it obvious that people who are thoughtful when it comes to others’ feelings more present and in tune and selfless during sex, or that people in touch with their own emotions and needs mindful of letting people know what they like and want? The question we want answered then, is how someone gets to have better or healthier emotional intelligence and what role culture plays in making that happen.

We could have all the emotional intelligence in the world, but if we’re still generally thought of as being wild, passionate creatures who cannot control our emotions and thoughts, what good does it do us? Additionally, one culture’s idea of what constitutes as high emotional intelligence can be another culture’s “weakness” or “selfishness.”

Sensitive girls ‘have better sex’ [Mirror]